Monday, November 23, 2009
The background and path forward
The Waiting. The Waiting is the worst part. For three years I waited for a boy to come around. He was a great guy, we had so much in common: a love for art, architecture, style, appreciation for music, culture, and family, but in the end, we didn't have enough in common to keep us together. Strange right!? That with two personalities so compatible, a relationship wouldn't work its self out. How could it though when two people are so young immature and down right inexperienced at the love game. And we loved each other, as Alicia Keys calls it in one of her songs, it was a reckless love, a crazy love, a we can do it any where kind of love. The passion, the laughter, the happiness, it was addictive and exhilarating. But the tears, the anger, the fights, it was heart wrenching. For that reason and for many other, we broke up. It still hurts every time I see him. It still hurts in the moments that I let the thought of him into my mind. But the pain is what keeps me vigilant in my relationships to come, and what keeps me focsed on what makes me happy.
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Brits' Point of View
So I just found this article of The Sun and this is a great quote from it:
"It takes them 22 dates, three one-night stands and three long-term relationships before hitting the romantic jackpot."
Perhaps this survey from The Sun gives us a little insight about how long it may take to find the right guy or girl for you!
Read more: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article940888.ece#ixzz0Wz8kRHRi
"It takes them 22 dates, three one-night stands and three long-term relationships before hitting the romantic jackpot."
Perhaps this survey from The Sun gives us a little insight about how long it may take to find the right guy or girl for you!
Read more: http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article940888.ece#ixzz0Wz8kRHRi
Kiss and Tell
When you hear the phrase "Kiss and Tell" an external gasp typically fills the air and giddy girls or under sexed men begin to crowd around. Tension rises as the excitement and anticipation of the story to come builds amongst the Listeners. Let’s be honest, we all want to live vicariously through others from time to time. As the faces of the Listeners continue to beam with suspense, the Teller secretly laughs inside oozing with pride of his/her tale of self scandal.
It’s actually quite funny how men and woman view this idea of kissing and telling. Normally a guy will embellish the story a little bit, throw in an added flair of testosterone and lay on a healthy dose of joking to get past the fact that he might get teased or idealized depending on his buddy's opinion of his new chosen girl. Woman, however, we'll tell the facts, might even hold back a few of the more scandalous insights depending how modest one is, but nonetheless we tell because we are secretly excited by our achievements. Honestly men, if a woman is not raving about you to her friends, you may want to wonder if you mean anything to her. But guys on the other hand, they tend to hold back the info if a girl in fact does mean something to him. This ying and yang effect is exactly why I have chosen to Kiss and Tell to a wider audience of people.
The concept of kissing and telling should not just be a scandalous round of story time, but it should be a chance for friends to share their experiences and relationships dos and don'ts with each other. Kissing and telling should be a sort of insight into the complexity of people and their interactions. My father once told me that relationships are the hardest things that human beings have to go through. As a child trying to make friends, I learned that relationships were a challenge amongst mean spirited adolescents that just wanted to be in the "it" crowd. As I grew older, and the types of relationships went from casual friends, to long lasting bonds, to sexual interactions, I quickly began to realize that a) not much had changed from adolescence and b) in order to keep from getting hurt, one might have to learn to look at things from the opposite perspective.
As an architect, the human psyche fascinates me. In order to design for humans, you have to understand them. This concept also applies to my revitalized search for love (I'll explain later). In order to find love, you first need to understand what the heck you’re looking for. That’s where relationships come in. Through the interaction with others, we not only find what we are looking for but we also begin to further define ourselves. As I've written in the "About Me," this blog is a means to an end, an outlet for me to explore not only the outrageous events of my life but also to explore theories that will help me to understand this idea of relationships a bit better. But ultimately, through my kiss and tell, I hope that others too will be able to have a little more insight into themselves and their relationships. So let’s get to it!
It’s actually quite funny how men and woman view this idea of kissing and telling. Normally a guy will embellish the story a little bit, throw in an added flair of testosterone and lay on a healthy dose of joking to get past the fact that he might get teased or idealized depending on his buddy's opinion of his new chosen girl. Woman, however, we'll tell the facts, might even hold back a few of the more scandalous insights depending how modest one is, but nonetheless we tell because we are secretly excited by our achievements. Honestly men, if a woman is not raving about you to her friends, you may want to wonder if you mean anything to her. But guys on the other hand, they tend to hold back the info if a girl in fact does mean something to him. This ying and yang effect is exactly why I have chosen to Kiss and Tell to a wider audience of people.
The concept of kissing and telling should not just be a scandalous round of story time, but it should be a chance for friends to share their experiences and relationships dos and don'ts with each other. Kissing and telling should be a sort of insight into the complexity of people and their interactions. My father once told me that relationships are the hardest things that human beings have to go through. As a child trying to make friends, I learned that relationships were a challenge amongst mean spirited adolescents that just wanted to be in the "it" crowd. As I grew older, and the types of relationships went from casual friends, to long lasting bonds, to sexual interactions, I quickly began to realize that a) not much had changed from adolescence and b) in order to keep from getting hurt, one might have to learn to look at things from the opposite perspective.
As an architect, the human psyche fascinates me. In order to design for humans, you have to understand them. This concept also applies to my revitalized search for love (I'll explain later). In order to find love, you first need to understand what the heck you’re looking for. That’s where relationships come in. Through the interaction with others, we not only find what we are looking for but we also begin to further define ourselves. As I've written in the "About Me," this blog is a means to an end, an outlet for me to explore not only the outrageous events of my life but also to explore theories that will help me to understand this idea of relationships a bit better. But ultimately, through my kiss and tell, I hope that others too will be able to have a little more insight into themselves and their relationships. So let’s get to it!
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