Something borrowed, something blue, and something NEW!

There is a sickening twist in my chest today. It could be there for many different reasons, but it also persists there due one main item of discontent, The Ex. But we shall attempt to dismiss the urge to crawl into fetal position and instead, describe the exciting aspects of my life at the moment. This Diva is currently relocated to a new city, a new job, and with new people to meet and explore. But a true Diva never leaves the comforts of her home without already having some perks set up…

Shortly after my break up with “The Ex,” I began seeing a boy from India. He lavished me with compliments and kind smiles, affection and flirtatious messages, and best of all attention. This boy was out to please and impress, and after sometime, he did just that. He began to creep into my life, without me even realizing it. And then of course when my silly fantasy driven mind realized a boy liked me, I decided to like back. But things went too far too fast with this one and in the end frightened him and me off a bit. The quickness of our relationship stunned me at first, but it also gave me a chance to learn quickly as well. First, I discovered that the three year relationship made me what Sherry Argov deems an “Overly Nice Girl.” After the trials and tribulations with India, I began reading Ms. Argov’s book “Why Men Love Bitches.” I highly recommend this book to any woman in need of some self confidence and insight on how men think. In plain and humorous terms, she explains things that women do in relationships that can be perceived in a completely different light than what was intended. Men and women really do think a hell of a lot differently, and this book lays it out there for a girl to start to understand how men view things.

With the help of this book and with my own self evaluation, I realized that I was making myself too available, putting far too much effort into things, and not doing nearly enough for my self, which men actually find quite attractive. Yes ladies, men love a woman that doesn’t have time for them. One that is busy with things that interest her and with passions that she enjoys to pursue for the simple fact that they make her happy. And if any of you are with a man that doesn’t appreciate these qualities and who intends to control you, drop and run! You simply deserve better. So after these revelations, I began finding things that made me happy, that I enjoyed to do and simply, that kept me occupied and pleasant. And guess who came back around…India. I suppose his attraction for a strong independent woman was too strong for his silly boy self to resist.

So now, I am in a new city with new people and a new job and a boy that is interested in me. As you can see in the way I phrased this last sentence, India is not the end all and be my entire world, he’s just a part of it. And with this new mentality, I intend to move forward with my life and see where the journey takes me  I hope all my readers will do the same.